Once again last night on the news a teen takes a gun to school.
Nothing new, right? His Mother in a tearful interview stated her son "has ADHD". My blood starts to boil! How many times have parents, not to mention their children used this as a reason for everything from a speeding ticket to taking weapons to a school? Yes, ADHD is a real concern that so many live & cope with in their everyday lives....but, "come on man"!
We are teaching many children & teens that their "disability" will be their ticket to do just about anything they feel for the rest of their lives. In the classroom they receive accomodations, if financially eligible their families receive money and if they misbehave in the community, many times the courts order free counseling services for them, while putting off any real consequences for their behavior.
Kids & parents...hear this! Once these young people are adults...
having ADHD isn't going to matter, it's not going to fly! If your child robs a bank, if they run a red light, if they shoplift or take a gun into a store and wave it around, as they once did at school....the law, society, or the prison system isn't going to care that in elementary school your little darling was found to have
ADHD!
Seek out help for you child now....through the schools, mental health centers, therapists and churches. There is help out there...many counselors have sliding scales or will help you access free services! Teach your child at home how to cope with his/her ADHD. You are cheating your child or teen if you do anything less! They are going to have to live in the real world...don't let them grow up in artificial "ADHD WORLD".
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC Licensed Mental Health Counselor & Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor License #MH9166 Phone: 386.747.7148 Fax: 407.264.8289 www.junderhilltherapy.com
DeLand, Florida Counseling Office and Sunshine State Online Therapy/Coaching/Consultation/Advocacy
Thursday, May 13, 2010
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
Today is a New Chance: Can I Love Too Much?
Today is a New Chance: Can I Love Too Much?
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHCLicensed Mental Health Counselor &Certified K-12 Guidance CounselorLicense #MH9166Phone: 386.747.7148Fax: 407.264.8289www.junderhilltherapy.com
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHCLicensed Mental Health Counselor &Certified K-12 Guidance CounselorLicense #MH9166Phone: 386.747.7148Fax: 407.264.8289www.junderhilltherapy.com
Monday, May 3, 2010
Can I Love Too Much?
"Women Who Love Too Much" is one of my favorite books. I use it with clients constantly and I have led book studies on it as well. The other day I had someone ask me... can I really love too much?
If it interferes with your life and another's life, I say a resounding..."Yes!". That is how you will know...if what you are doing is keeping you from reaching your full potential or preventing someone close to you from growing or growing up...then you are loving TOO much!
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC
Licensed Mental Health Counselor
License #MH9166
Phone: 386.747.714
www.junderhilltherapy.com
If it interferes with your life and another's life, I say a resounding..."Yes!". That is how you will know...if what you are doing is keeping you from reaching your full potential or preventing someone close to you from growing or growing up...then you are loving TOO much!
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC
Licensed Mental Health Counselor
License #MH9166
Phone: 386.747.714
www.junderhilltherapy.com
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
Knocked Down or Out?
Getting knocked down is tough...but isn't
getting back up again the hard part?
If you attempt to make a difference or a change
hitting the ground in failure is always a
possibility. If we are judged by failures
then fear will be our mantra in life leading
to at the very least modification of our
goals and dreams.
With every knockdown we experience in our lives,
comes a lesson. Once the dirt has been dusted off
our bruised behinds and ego....aren't we better
for the experience? Aren't we stronger for getting
up and looking at why we failed as we go forward
to something better.
We just have to keep getting back up...
COURAGE doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the
quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try
again tomorrow." (Unknown).Isn't this where our strength
and faith is truly tested? Every day to get up,
dust ourselves off and try again?
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC
Licensed Mental Health Counselor &
Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor
License #MH9166
Phone: 386.747.7148
Fax: 407.264.8289
www.junderhilltherapy.com
getting back up again the hard part?
If you attempt to make a difference or a change
hitting the ground in failure is always a
possibility. If we are judged by failures
then fear will be our mantra in life leading
to at the very least modification of our
goals and dreams.
With every knockdown we experience in our lives,
comes a lesson. Once the dirt has been dusted off
our bruised behinds and ego....aren't we better
for the experience? Aren't we stronger for getting
up and looking at why we failed as we go forward
to something better.
We just have to keep getting back up...
COURAGE doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the
quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try
again tomorrow." (Unknown).Isn't this where our strength
and faith is truly tested? Every day to get up,
dust ourselves off and try again?
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC
Licensed Mental Health Counselor &
Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor
License #MH9166
Phone: 386.747.7148
Fax: 407.264.8289
www.junderhilltherapy.com
Sunday, July 5, 2009
Are you living... today?
Are you spending today doing something you enjoy or with someone you care about? Or are you sitting at home worrying about something you said or did yesterday or thinking about tomorrow?
We forget sometimes that the next day is not guaranteed to any of us....
and yesterday while we can work on the way we look at the past, (therapy?)
...we really cannot change it. As for our future...we can prepare for it, that's true...but other than that worrying about it will NOT change it.
Perhaps spending more time on living today would bring ease to whatever we were spending all of our time worrying about?
We can only do it...not try...but do. Worrying about tomorrow has not doubt
not brought today to you in a positive way. So set a time to worry
if you must...and worry to your heart's content...but as for the rest of today...live it!
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC
Licensed Mental Health Counselor &
Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor
License #MH9166
Phone: 386.747.7148
Fax: 407.264.8289
www.junderhilltherapy.com
We forget sometimes that the next day is not guaranteed to any of us....
and yesterday while we can work on the way we look at the past, (therapy?)
...we really cannot change it. As for our future...we can prepare for it, that's true...but other than that worrying about it will NOT change it.
Perhaps spending more time on living today would bring ease to whatever we were spending all of our time worrying about?
We can only do it...not try...but do. Worrying about tomorrow has not doubt
not brought today to you in a positive way. So set a time to worry
if you must...and worry to your heart's content...but as for the rest of today...live it!
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC
Licensed Mental Health Counselor &
Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor
License #MH9166
Phone: 386.747.7148
Fax: 407.264.8289
www.junderhilltherapy.com
Sunday, June 28, 2009
Have a Clue? (2nd edition)
Do we really have a clue? Do parents realize thatat age 9-10 today many young girls are hitting puberty? Boys at 10 know about sex? Are we as parents or grandparents aware of how technically"aware" they may be at this age,but they are still naive kids, right? What a dangerous combination this can be.
Just because our children know how to upload a questionable photo of a classmate (who puts it out there not knowing it's there for life), why would they? Does a 6th grader view that any differently than sending the latest gossip on their cellphones to a classmate, much less the entire class? Is a 5th grader who is expelled from school for an angry remark made on a My Space really responsible for a a crime? Our kids are so able to get their hands on such technology that can do such harm or make others feel in danger. Can we hold these children totally responsible?
Having been a guidance counselor for 15 years it is scary to have witnessed how quickly one texted remark can cause a total disruptionof a grade level if not an entire school or neighborhood. Are we adults really "awake" to that possiblity, if not probability? Are we supervising our child's online or cell communications where many times these problems all start right in our homes? Are we willing to risk not being a friend to our child or grandchild in order to protect them and others? They will accuse us of invading their privacy as we try to keep them safe from themselves. Can't we handle that?They may be far ahead of you in technological knowledge...but they are still 11, 12, 13 ....with all those ages bring with it! "Tweens" and teens they are all "doing it"...texting, emailing and hosting their own social networkpages! I think as parents and grandparents we want to believe,well our kids would never! Well folks...not only would they ever.... they most certainly already are! Do you want to take that chance, really? It only takes them a minute to type or text....something they may or may not realize is wrong...but changes their lives forever!
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC
Licensed Mental Health Counselor &
Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor
License #MH9166
Phone: 386.747.7148
Fax: 407.264.8289
www.junderhilltherapy.com
Just because our children know how to upload a questionable photo of a classmate (who puts it out there not knowing it's there for life), why would they? Does a 6th grader view that any differently than sending the latest gossip on their cellphones to a classmate, much less the entire class? Is a 5th grader who is expelled from school for an angry remark made on a My Space really responsible for a a crime? Our kids are so able to get their hands on such technology that can do such harm or make others feel in danger. Can we hold these children totally responsible?
Having been a guidance counselor for 15 years it is scary to have witnessed how quickly one texted remark can cause a total disruptionof a grade level if not an entire school or neighborhood. Are we adults really "awake" to that possiblity, if not probability? Are we supervising our child's online or cell communications where many times these problems all start right in our homes? Are we willing to risk not being a friend to our child or grandchild in order to protect them and others? They will accuse us of invading their privacy as we try to keep them safe from themselves. Can't we handle that?They may be far ahead of you in technological knowledge...but they are still 11, 12, 13 ....with all those ages bring with it! "Tweens" and teens they are all "doing it"...texting, emailing and hosting their own social networkpages! I think as parents and grandparents we want to believe,well our kids would never! Well folks...not only would they ever.... they most certainly already are! Do you want to take that chance, really? It only takes them a minute to type or text....something they may or may not realize is wrong...but changes their lives forever!
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC
Licensed Mental Health Counselor &
Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor
License #MH9166
Phone: 386.747.7148
Fax: 407.264.8289
www.junderhilltherapy.com
Monday, June 22, 2009
It's Easy From the Bench
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat." (Theodore Roosevelt)
The Monday morning quarterback, the talking heads on cable news....these
are not we need to admire. The real heroes are those out there in the streets
demanding fairness, the politician making the tough decisions,
(or not making them?) and the every day person going to work so they can support their responsibilities. It is so easy from the sidelines.... isn't it Joe? View Gals? Bill O? It's so easy from the sidelines.
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC
Licensed Mental Health Counselor &
Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor
License #MH9166
Phone: 386.747.7148
Fax: 407.264.8289
www.junderhilltherapy.com
The Monday morning quarterback, the talking heads on cable news....these
are not we need to admire. The real heroes are those out there in the streets
demanding fairness, the politician making the tough decisions,
(or not making them?) and the every day person going to work so they can support their responsibilities. It is so easy from the sidelines.... isn't it Joe? View Gals? Bill O? It's so easy from the sidelines.
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC
Licensed Mental Health Counselor &
Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor
License #MH9166
Phone: 386.747.7148
Fax: 407.264.8289
www.junderhilltherapy.com
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