Today is a New Chance: Anxiety of Apprehension
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHCLicensed Mental Health Counselor &Certified K-12 Guidance CounselorLicense #MH9166Phone: 386.747.7148Fax: 407.264.8289www.junderhilltherapy.com
DeLand, Florida Counseling Office and Sunshine State Online Therapy/Coaching/Consultation/Advocacy
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Anxiety of Apprehension
Worrying about someting coming up in the future? What if it
does or doesn't? I find so many asking themselves. Every day...sometimes during many waking hours people are asking themselves these questions. With that the anxiety begins to build...we become apprehsnive, irritable, frustrated and even angry.
The amount of worry one puts into a problem or a concern does not affect the outcome of course in a positive way. In fact in most cases people are so exhausted by the energy they have put out prior to the event that it effects the end result
negatively as we are running on a "low tank". Many times more issues
can even be created by the anxiety generated by all the worry.
Stress, even good stress is still stress! So in order to approach an upcoming
event in our lives we need to be able to acknowlege and address it is stressing us. Figuring out what works for our stressors is perhaps the most important thing we can do for ourselves. Discovering this allows us to deal with what is coming up in our lives in a more efficent and calm manner. We can make informed decisions, make better choices...if we are not stressing out along the way!
Does listening to music calm you or perhaps a brisk walk? Meditation or yoga are excellent avenues to reduce anxiety and quiet the mind of all the noise
we have created by worrying. Do you feel better after you have talked with a
good friend or enjoyed an evening out? Taking care of yourself will give you
a leg up on whatever you are facing in your life down the line.
Many of us use much negative "self talk" that can also
help increase one's anxiety. When we think of what we are facing
many times we stress ourselves out with words like: "should", "ought", "awful","terrible", "never" and "always". As we do this our anxiety level rises as we go forward not questioning or challenging this negativity we are generating for ourselves. For example if this happens will it really be terrible or just unfortunate? OR who says I should or alway need to do something? Many times just a quick quesion to ourselves can provide relief.
Apprehension about a future event will not CHANGE it! The sun will of course
keeping rising prior to THE DAY no matter how much we concern ourselves about it.
Discover your worry relief activity and utilize it...you deserve it!
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC Licensed Mental Health Counselor & Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor License #MH9166 Phone: 386.747.7148 Fax: 407.264.8289 www.junderhilltherapy.com
does or doesn't? I find so many asking themselves. Every day...sometimes during many waking hours people are asking themselves these questions. With that the anxiety begins to build...we become apprehsnive, irritable, frustrated and even angry.
The amount of worry one puts into a problem or a concern does not affect the outcome of course in a positive way. In fact in most cases people are so exhausted by the energy they have put out prior to the event that it effects the end result
negatively as we are running on a "low tank". Many times more issues
can even be created by the anxiety generated by all the worry.
Stress, even good stress is still stress! So in order to approach an upcoming
event in our lives we need to be able to acknowlege and address it is stressing us. Figuring out what works for our stressors is perhaps the most important thing we can do for ourselves. Discovering this allows us to deal with what is coming up in our lives in a more efficent and calm manner. We can make informed decisions, make better choices...if we are not stressing out along the way!
Does listening to music calm you or perhaps a brisk walk? Meditation or yoga are excellent avenues to reduce anxiety and quiet the mind of all the noise
we have created by worrying. Do you feel better after you have talked with a
good friend or enjoyed an evening out? Taking care of yourself will give you
a leg up on whatever you are facing in your life down the line.
Many of us use much negative "self talk" that can also
help increase one's anxiety. When we think of what we are facing
many times we stress ourselves out with words like: "should", "ought", "awful","terrible", "never" and "always". As we do this our anxiety level rises as we go forward not questioning or challenging this negativity we are generating for ourselves. For example if this happens will it really be terrible or just unfortunate? OR who says I should or alway need to do something? Many times just a quick quesion to ourselves can provide relief.
Apprehension about a future event will not CHANGE it! The sun will of course
keeping rising prior to THE DAY no matter how much we concern ourselves about it.
Discover your worry relief activity and utilize it...you deserve it!
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC Licensed Mental Health Counselor & Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor License #MH9166 Phone: 386.747.7148 Fax: 407.264.8289 www.junderhilltherapy.com
Monday, June 21, 2010
Detour of Change
A change we didn't want that knocks us down is tough...but isn't
accepting the new "view" as an opportunity tougher?
If you only choose to see a change as failure instead of a new
possibility...why try? If we are judged by failures
then fear will be a mantra for life leading
to at the very least a modification if not to
watching our dreams die all together.
With every change or detour we experience in our lives,
comes a lesson. Once the dirt has been dusted off,
our bruised ego healed....aren't we better
for the experience that change brought to us?
"COURAGE doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the
quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try
again tomorrow." (Unknown).
Isn't this where our strength
and faith are truly tested? Every change, ever new
path is truly meant for us to discover more of
our true selves.
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC
Licensed Mental Health Counselor &
Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor
License #MH9166
Phone: 386.747.7148
Fax: 407.264.8289
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC Licensed Mental Health Counselor & Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor License #MH9166 Phone: 386.747.7148 Fax: 407.264.8289 www.junderhilltherapy.com
accepting the new "view" as an opportunity tougher?
If you only choose to see a change as failure instead of a new
possibility...why try? If we are judged by failures
then fear will be a mantra for life leading
to at the very least a modification if not to
watching our dreams die all together.
With every change or detour we experience in our lives,
comes a lesson. Once the dirt has been dusted off,
our bruised ego healed....aren't we better
for the experience that change brought to us?
"COURAGE doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the
quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try
again tomorrow." (Unknown).
Isn't this where our strength
and faith are truly tested? Every change, ever new
path is truly meant for us to discover more of
our true selves.
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC
Licensed Mental Health Counselor &
Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor
License #MH9166
Phone: 386.747.7148
Fax: 407.264.8289
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC Licensed Mental Health Counselor & Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor License #MH9166 Phone: 386.747.7148 Fax: 407.264.8289 www.junderhilltherapy.com
Thursday, May 13, 2010
"ADHD World"
Once again last night on the news a teen takes a gun to school.
Nothing new, right? His Mother in a tearful interview stated her son "has ADHD". My blood starts to boil! How many times have parents, not to mention their children used this as a reason for everything from a speeding ticket to taking weapons to a school? Yes, ADHD is a real concern that so many live & cope with in their everyday lives....but, "come on man"!
We are teaching many children & teens that their "disability" will be their ticket to do just about anything they feel for the rest of their lives. In the classroom they receive accomodations, if financially eligible their families receive money and if they misbehave in the community, many times the courts order free counseling services for them, while putting off any real consequences for their behavior.
Kids & parents...hear this! Once these young people are adults...
having ADHD isn't going to matter, it's not going to fly! If your child robs a bank, if they run a red light, if they shoplift or take a gun into a store and wave it around, as they once did at school....the law, society, or the prison system isn't going to care that in elementary school your little darling was found to have
ADHD!
Seek out help for you child now....through the schools, mental health centers, therapists and churches. There is help out there...many counselors have sliding scales or will help you access free services! Teach your child at home how to cope with his/her ADHD. You are cheating your child or teen if you do anything less! They are going to have to live in the real world...don't let them grow up in artificial "ADHD WORLD".
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC Licensed Mental Health Counselor & Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor License #MH9166 Phone: 386.747.7148 Fax: 407.264.8289 www.junderhilltherapy.com
Nothing new, right? His Mother in a tearful interview stated her son "has ADHD". My blood starts to boil! How many times have parents, not to mention their children used this as a reason for everything from a speeding ticket to taking weapons to a school? Yes, ADHD is a real concern that so many live & cope with in their everyday lives....but, "come on man"!
We are teaching many children & teens that their "disability" will be their ticket to do just about anything they feel for the rest of their lives. In the classroom they receive accomodations, if financially eligible their families receive money and if they misbehave in the community, many times the courts order free counseling services for them, while putting off any real consequences for their behavior.
Kids & parents...hear this! Once these young people are adults...
having ADHD isn't going to matter, it's not going to fly! If your child robs a bank, if they run a red light, if they shoplift or take a gun into a store and wave it around, as they once did at school....the law, society, or the prison system isn't going to care that in elementary school your little darling was found to have
ADHD!
Seek out help for you child now....through the schools, mental health centers, therapists and churches. There is help out there...many counselors have sliding scales or will help you access free services! Teach your child at home how to cope with his/her ADHD. You are cheating your child or teen if you do anything less! They are going to have to live in the real world...don't let them grow up in artificial "ADHD WORLD".
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC Licensed Mental Health Counselor & Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor License #MH9166 Phone: 386.747.7148 Fax: 407.264.8289 www.junderhilltherapy.com
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
Today is a New Chance: Can I Love Too Much?
Today is a New Chance: Can I Love Too Much?
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHCLicensed Mental Health Counselor &Certified K-12 Guidance CounselorLicense #MH9166Phone: 386.747.7148Fax: 407.264.8289www.junderhilltherapy.com
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHCLicensed Mental Health Counselor &Certified K-12 Guidance CounselorLicense #MH9166Phone: 386.747.7148Fax: 407.264.8289www.junderhilltherapy.com
Monday, May 3, 2010
Can I Love Too Much?
"Women Who Love Too Much" is one of my favorite books. I use it with clients constantly and I have led book studies on it as well. The other day I had someone ask me... can I really love too much?
If it interferes with your life and another's life, I say a resounding..."Yes!". That is how you will know...if what you are doing is keeping you from reaching your full potential or preventing someone close to you from growing or growing up...then you are loving TOO much!
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC
Licensed Mental Health Counselor
License #MH9166
Phone: 386.747.714
www.junderhilltherapy.com
If it interferes with your life and another's life, I say a resounding..."Yes!". That is how you will know...if what you are doing is keeping you from reaching your full potential or preventing someone close to you from growing or growing up...then you are loving TOO much!
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC
Licensed Mental Health Counselor
License #MH9166
Phone: 386.747.714
www.junderhilltherapy.com
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
Knocked Down or Out?
Getting knocked down is tough...but isn't
getting back up again the hard part?
If you attempt to make a difference or a change
hitting the ground in failure is always a
possibility. If we are judged by failures
then fear will be our mantra in life leading
to at the very least modification of our
goals and dreams.
With every knockdown we experience in our lives,
comes a lesson. Once the dirt has been dusted off
our bruised behinds and ego....aren't we better
for the experience? Aren't we stronger for getting
up and looking at why we failed as we go forward
to something better.
We just have to keep getting back up...
COURAGE doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the
quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try
again tomorrow." (Unknown).Isn't this where our strength
and faith is truly tested? Every day to get up,
dust ourselves off and try again?
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC
Licensed Mental Health Counselor &
Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor
License #MH9166
Phone: 386.747.7148
Fax: 407.264.8289
www.junderhilltherapy.com
getting back up again the hard part?
If you attempt to make a difference or a change
hitting the ground in failure is always a
possibility. If we are judged by failures
then fear will be our mantra in life leading
to at the very least modification of our
goals and dreams.
With every knockdown we experience in our lives,
comes a lesson. Once the dirt has been dusted off
our bruised behinds and ego....aren't we better
for the experience? Aren't we stronger for getting
up and looking at why we failed as we go forward
to something better.
We just have to keep getting back up...
COURAGE doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the
quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try
again tomorrow." (Unknown).Isn't this where our strength
and faith is truly tested? Every day to get up,
dust ourselves off and try again?
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC
Licensed Mental Health Counselor &
Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor
License #MH9166
Phone: 386.747.7148
Fax: 407.264.8289
www.junderhilltherapy.com
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