Intimacy, Ever?

Dr. Berman, a therapist who has appeared on Oprah many times has a homework assignment to help couples... "Start giving your partner a 10-second kiss at least once a day," Dr. Berman says. "You'll be surprised to see what a difference it makes and how long it feels compared to what you normally do."

Many couples who come to my office are looking to reconect for various reasons...but most are saying finding intimacy again is the most difficult for them. Whether old or young, gay or straight...the feeling of truly being connected with the person they love is the #1 priority couples mention when they visit my office for counseling.

After a short time however it becomes clear if true intimacy is what peope are searching for or primarily the physical part
of it. Many who have been outside their relationship discover that
they are actually afraid of real intimacy, while others discover
that they have never truly experienced it with another person. Still others long for that special "something" they had with their parnter many years ago...intimacy?

For long term couples Dr,. Berman's homework assignment many times
awakens feelings that may have been long in slumber....opening up
communication channels to get acquainted with the person they haven't really known, having been busy with raising families, building careers and facing whatever life has brought them over the years.

It has taken a great deal of time for couples to lose what brought them together. Concentrating on "the kiss" will certainly not bring it all back "in a flash"...but it is truly a great place to begin to discover a way back to each other....or perhaps to each other for the very first time.



Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC Licensed Mental Health Counselor & Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor License #MH9166 Phone: 386.747.7148 Fax: 407.264.8289 www.junderhilltherapy.com