Is It Ok to Quit?

A good friend of mine, a Christian counselor often tells clients when
they won't move forward to "quit trying and just do". Many of us are taught to never give up....leave it all on the field....keep trying against all odds.

I was wondering the other day as I watched a good person continue to try 100% as they always do and continuing to hit their head on a wall as they always do.....if it wouldn't be of benefit one to just quit for a while sometimes and surrender to life? I wondered what would happen in this situation if one stopped swimming against a current, that they were not overcoming and took a rest? Would it make any difference at all? Or would quitting perhaps affect change on a situation where change is so desperately needed? It might be what is best but not what they want to have happen at all I thought. A good friend pointed yes but... while you cannot always get what you want, you may get what you need.

This may be true. As I watched this person continue to struggle alone against forces that could neither be controlled or overcome even to to save something most precious to them, I wondered if a rest from the battle fought for so long might be what was needed. Perhaps I wondered against what many of us are taught to believe one should sometimes quit trying and not do...for a while?

Perhaps this time out will give us what we need.




Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC
Licensed Mental Health Counselor &
Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor
License #MH9166
Phone: 386.747.7148
Fax: 407.264.8289
www.junderhilltherapy.com