Bullying has been around as long as there have been children. It has been part
of growing up in schools and in neighborhoods. Many of us have been victims and some have been the bullies. What is making this different for today's children... putting bullying in the national spotlight?
Have we let our children down by not teaching them coping skills? Is the speed
of the internet negating the ability of parents and schools to deal with these
situations as they arise? Has the country become desensitized to all but the
extreme cases, such as the recent suicide of a gay college student or the arrest
of the father of a special needs student in Florida?
There will be plenty of blame and finger pointing regarding this issue. Already the school in Florida is defending itself with a statement. Ellen has made a plea
which has been all over Twitter and Facebook. No doubt, at least initially...politicians, stars and others will be talking about this as a most
important topic...until the next one.
Last week it was education, this week bullying, next week...? Perhaps this leads
to one of the primary concerns...very important issues become "topic of the week".
or the day...then fade away back into daily life, out of the spotlight where
they are not dealt with by our best and brightest. No solutions are found, debate
quiets....until the next child dies or parent becomes the bully! Only, then...
will we look again for answers?
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC Licensed Mental Health Counselor & Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor License #MH9166 Phone: 386.747.7148 Fax: 407.264.8289 www.junderhilltherapy.com
DeLand, Florida Counseling Office and Sunshine State Online Therapy/Coaching/Consultation/Advocacy
Wednesday, October 6, 2010
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
A Single Step
""A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step"....often the
most difficult step to take? When my husband was first diagnosed with multiple
myeloma, which is a terminal blood cancer...I did not want to take a step
outside or away from him. I wanted to take care of him, protect him and try
to control the uncontrollable. As you might guess, not only was this not
good for my husband or myself, it actually contributed to my feeling not
helpful, useful or able to contribute to anything or anyone in a meaningful
way.
Once I took the step away from my husband and back to my practice...even for
a few hours a day, which by the way seemed unthinkable at first...did I find
my feeling of purpose again...which is so vital to all of us. I am not saying I
am a magician, (In fact I often point out to my clients that no magic wand is
hanging in my office). But in most cases I can provide some comfort, discuss
some ideas or just really listen to people who come to my office looking to
discover a more meaningful direction for their lives...whether it be due to
a divorce, work stress, depression or dealing with a rebellious teenager at home.
Now when I leave my husband whether he is in or out of the hospital...I can do so
knowing I am giving him my best and because of that have something to give to
others each day. And when I leave my office I feel I have accomplished something
that gives my life purpose so I can take the step again back to and to care for the man
I love.
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC Licensed Mental Health Counselor & Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor License #MH9166 Phone: 386.747.7148 Fax: 407.264.8289 www.junderhilltherapy.com
most difficult step to take? When my husband was first diagnosed with multiple
myeloma, which is a terminal blood cancer...I did not want to take a step
outside or away from him. I wanted to take care of him, protect him and try
to control the uncontrollable. As you might guess, not only was this not
good for my husband or myself, it actually contributed to my feeling not
helpful, useful or able to contribute to anything or anyone in a meaningful
way.
Once I took the step away from my husband and back to my practice...even for
a few hours a day, which by the way seemed unthinkable at first...did I find
my feeling of purpose again...which is so vital to all of us. I am not saying I
am a magician, (In fact I often point out to my clients that no magic wand is
hanging in my office). But in most cases I can provide some comfort, discuss
some ideas or just really listen to people who come to my office looking to
discover a more meaningful direction for their lives...whether it be due to
a divorce, work stress, depression or dealing with a rebellious teenager at home.
Now when I leave my husband whether he is in or out of the hospital...I can do so
knowing I am giving him my best and because of that have something to give to
others each day. And when I leave my office I feel I have accomplished something
that gives my life purpose so I can take the step again back to and to care for the man
I love.
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC Licensed Mental Health Counselor & Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor License #MH9166 Phone: 386.747.7148 Fax: 407.264.8289 www.junderhilltherapy.com
Thursday, August 19, 2010
Are You Worth Your Time?
Today more than ever I keep hearing, "I really need to do "whatever", but
I can't find the time. "If you want time, you must make it."(Charles Bruxton). I would argue that Mr. Bruxton was right! The only way you will ever find time for anything is to schedule it in the blackberry, on your calendar... or place it on the top of your daily "to do" list.
Ah...but women in particular while fabulous at multitasking & juggling between
their business and caretaking duties...are absolutely terrible at making time
to take care of themselves, i.e. their needs,their bodies, their feelings, or even years after women's lib.. asking for what they want or need! For many this time was the beginning of losing themselves. Years later as they feel abandoned by spouse/partners many come asking for tools to cope with a life they have to build for themselves! So used to taking care of others, they are clueless or feel guilty about putting that same time and effort into taking care of their own needs and scheduling time for the simplest things...a physical, working out or even taking time to remember what they enjoy or may still be passionate about before they started "real life" many years ago.
As they are getting in touch with who they are now and finding a purpose...even one minute at a time, if that's what it takes...these wonderful, interesting women appear to reawaken and actually say they are more themselves than ever! They begin to worry they are becoming selfish as they find themselves guarding time they now treasure to spend on what they want, need & feel is important. Some question their commitments, some wonder if they have ever had a healthy relationship of any kind. The roles they have played practically their whole adult lives may not longer fit into the "healthy" relationships that they long for...with family, friends and loved ones. Changing creates ripples in all of these emotional tides..but can the ripples lead to a more fulffilling trip? You really can can learn to ride the waves.
So ask yourself today...are you worth your time?
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC Licensed Mental Health Counselor & Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor License #MH9166 Phone: 386.747.7148 Fax: 407.264.8289 www.junderhilltherapy.com
I can't find the time. "If you want time, you must make it."(Charles Bruxton). I would argue that Mr. Bruxton was right! The only way you will ever find time for anything is to schedule it in the blackberry, on your calendar... or place it on the top of your daily "to do" list.
Ah...but women in particular while fabulous at multitasking & juggling between
their business and caretaking duties...are absolutely terrible at making time
to take care of themselves, i.e. their needs,their bodies, their feelings, or even years after women's lib.. asking for what they want or need! For many this time was the beginning of losing themselves. Years later as they feel abandoned by spouse/partners many come asking for tools to cope with a life they have to build for themselves! So used to taking care of others, they are clueless or feel guilty about putting that same time and effort into taking care of their own needs and scheduling time for the simplest things...a physical, working out or even taking time to remember what they enjoy or may still be passionate about before they started "real life" many years ago.
As they are getting in touch with who they are now and finding a purpose...even one minute at a time, if that's what it takes...these wonderful, interesting women appear to reawaken and actually say they are more themselves than ever! They begin to worry they are becoming selfish as they find themselves guarding time they now treasure to spend on what they want, need & feel is important. Some question their commitments, some wonder if they have ever had a healthy relationship of any kind. The roles they have played practically their whole adult lives may not longer fit into the "healthy" relationships that they long for...with family, friends and loved ones. Changing creates ripples in all of these emotional tides..but can the ripples lead to a more fulffilling trip? You really can can learn to ride the waves.
So ask yourself today...are you worth your time?
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC Licensed Mental Health Counselor & Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor License #MH9166 Phone: 386.747.7148 Fax: 407.264.8289 www.junderhilltherapy.com
Friday, August 13, 2010
Parent Action Instead of Reaction?
School is starting...so much excitement, along with new blank pages of paper, packs of pens & pencils, new electronics...all the trappings of a new school year!
Parents feel they are arming their children with everything they will need for
a successful school year. Even if they had a tough year previously... Mom and Dad
are feeling this is the year it will all turn around for their students!
I asked a mom of a child with earning issues the other day if she had already contacted the school? Had she scheduled a conference prior to school beginning to make a plan to assist her daughter in improving her performance and lowering her own anxiety & the stress from the previous year. She said she usually waits until the first progress report or report card before I start to " panic". So I asked her "You are choosing then to react rather than act and make a plan to help your child and you from having academic and/or social issues at school?" "I guess so."
she said. Before the end of the session she was asking how to make a
learning plan for her child for the upcoming school year.
If her child had a documented learning issue...which she did, what had been keeping her from working with the school or making a 504 plan for her child? The issues her child has do get in the way of her ability to learn at a "normal" rate. But this mom
was concerned about upsetting the teachers...even though she and her daughter had
spent the last two school years stressed out...affecting not only her daughter at school, but family life and the Mom's marriage. She didn't want to look like a problem parent at school. But after challenging that idea Mom admitted that she really didn't want to admit that her daughter might not become the doctor or lawyer she had dreamed of when she was born...not matter how hard Mom is pushing her o make it happen.
Why react, when you can act? We as parents are willing to spend a small fortune on
getting our children physical school supplies. Why not give our child a plan?
All it will really cost us is our time. Are we really more concerned about upsetting our chidlren's teachers...and willing to set our student up to fail or stress out trying to keep up with work when they have a true disability? We would rather them struggle than admit they have a learning concern not only to the school...but to ourselvies? We would rather go back to school ourselves...working with our student for hours each night, or worse yet, doing the work for them...than to help them learn to cope with their learning issues and move forward with their education? Some parents enjoy the drama...but I suspect most just don't know how
to take the first step in order to make an educaitonal plan for their children.
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC
Licensed Mental Health Counselor & Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor
License #MH9166
Phone: 386.747.7148 Fax: 407.264.8289
www.junderhilltherapy.com
Parents feel they are arming their children with everything they will need for
a successful school year. Even if they had a tough year previously... Mom and Dad
are feeling this is the year it will all turn around for their students!
I asked a mom of a child with earning issues the other day if she had already contacted the school? Had she scheduled a conference prior to school beginning to make a plan to assist her daughter in improving her performance and lowering her own anxiety & the stress from the previous year. She said she usually waits until the first progress report or report card before I start to " panic". So I asked her "You are choosing then to react rather than act and make a plan to help your child and you from having academic and/or social issues at school?" "I guess so."
she said. Before the end of the session she was asking how to make a
learning plan for her child for the upcoming school year.
If her child had a documented learning issue...which she did, what had been keeping her from working with the school or making a 504 plan for her child? The issues her child has do get in the way of her ability to learn at a "normal" rate. But this mom
was concerned about upsetting the teachers...even though she and her daughter had
spent the last two school years stressed out...affecting not only her daughter at school, but family life and the Mom's marriage. She didn't want to look like a problem parent at school. But after challenging that idea Mom admitted that she really didn't want to admit that her daughter might not become the doctor or lawyer she had dreamed of when she was born...not matter how hard Mom is pushing her o make it happen.
Why react, when you can act? We as parents are willing to spend a small fortune on
getting our children physical school supplies. Why not give our child a plan?
All it will really cost us is our time. Are we really more concerned about upsetting our chidlren's teachers...and willing to set our student up to fail or stress out trying to keep up with work when they have a true disability? We would rather them struggle than admit they have a learning concern not only to the school...but to ourselvies? We would rather go back to school ourselves...working with our student for hours each night, or worse yet, doing the work for them...than to help them learn to cope with their learning issues and move forward with their education? Some parents enjoy the drama...but I suspect most just don't know how
to take the first step in order to make an educaitonal plan for their children.
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC
Licensed Mental Health Counselor & Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor
License #MH9166
Phone: 386.747.7148 Fax: 407.264.8289
www.junderhilltherapy.com
Saturday, August 7, 2010
Fear Being There For Your Child?
So many times parents bring their children to counselors only
to discover their own issues or likeness to their children in their
formative years. This can lead to good outcomes with all receiving
informtation and tools to assist with their lives. The flip side however is
many times the parent goes into denial only to continue berating the child or blaming others for the child's issues or diagnosis, (ADD,ADHD,Aspergers,etc.).
Our kids don't come with an owner's munual or directions....neither
did we when our parents welcomed us into the world. Somehow
many adults feel such guilt over carrying on genetic traits
that they will run away from help not only for themselves, but
their children as well who are dealing with an increasing fast moving
informational and educational world. This only disables
them further if they have learning or social issues in
addition to denying them a parent who may have traveled down
a similar road as a youth.... who could give them a wonderful model of success
to follow, giving the child strength to deal with life.
Encouragement from our parents along with what we do, (not what we say) are
the most powerful blueprints for our children to follow. If you have a child with
concerns does it make sense to rob them of their most precious resource if you experienced similar issues growing up? Might sharing your experiences and demonstrating to your child help them cope with challenges in life?
Let your children come to you with their struggles and their triumphs, share yours from when you grew up as well. You are your child's best example. Don't run, blame or deny...you will only suffer guilt of not being there for them and deny yourself healing as well.
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC Licensed Mental Health Counselor & Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor License #MH9166 Phone: 386.747.7148 Fax: 407.264.8289 www.junderhilltherapy.com
to discover their own issues or likeness to their children in their
formative years. This can lead to good outcomes with all receiving
informtation and tools to assist with their lives. The flip side however is
many times the parent goes into denial only to continue berating the child or blaming others for the child's issues or diagnosis, (ADD,ADHD,Aspergers,etc.).
Our kids don't come with an owner's munual or directions....neither
did we when our parents welcomed us into the world. Somehow
many adults feel such guilt over carrying on genetic traits
that they will run away from help not only for themselves, but
their children as well who are dealing with an increasing fast moving
informational and educational world. This only disables
them further if they have learning or social issues in
addition to denying them a parent who may have traveled down
a similar road as a youth.... who could give them a wonderful model of success
to follow, giving the child strength to deal with life.
Encouragement from our parents along with what we do, (not what we say) are
the most powerful blueprints for our children to follow. If you have a child with
concerns does it make sense to rob them of their most precious resource if you experienced similar issues growing up? Might sharing your experiences and demonstrating to your child help them cope with challenges in life?
Let your children come to you with their struggles and their triumphs, share yours from when you grew up as well. You are your child's best example. Don't run, blame or deny...you will only suffer guilt of not being there for them and deny yourself healing as well.
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC Licensed Mental Health Counselor & Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor License #MH9166 Phone: 386.747.7148 Fax: 407.264.8289 www.junderhilltherapy.com
Monday, August 2, 2010
Forgiveness True Test of Friendship?
Every now and then even the truest, oldest friendships are tested. Usually
by a misunderstanding or words spoken in haste that of course cannot be
recanted. Other times people get involved and "color" the events and
get in between friends of long standing only to "stir the pot" for their
own entertainment or love of drama.
For most the toughest part of mending fences is actually sitting down with
their friend and hearing their perception of what took place & thinking
about what was going on in their lives at the time of the conflict. Many
times it actually turns out of course that the reality each friend was
going on was totally different from the other. Or....one or both parties were
dealing with events in their lives which may have caused stress and immature
responses to the actual situation which caused the break in the friendship.
Is it better to be right or to forgive? Do you want to win or to be happy?
If you are holding on to bitterness...what is your pay off for doing so? Many
times it takes one to let go of the hurt so that the fences of friendship may
be mended.
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC Licensed Mental Health Counselor & Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor License #MH9166 Phone: 386.747.7148 Fax: 407.264.8289 www.junderhilltherapy.com
by a misunderstanding or words spoken in haste that of course cannot be
recanted. Other times people get involved and "color" the events and
get in between friends of long standing only to "stir the pot" for their
own entertainment or love of drama.
For most the toughest part of mending fences is actually sitting down with
their friend and hearing their perception of what took place & thinking
about what was going on in their lives at the time of the conflict. Many
times it actually turns out of course that the reality each friend was
going on was totally different from the other. Or....one or both parties were
dealing with events in their lives which may have caused stress and immature
responses to the actual situation which caused the break in the friendship.
Is it better to be right or to forgive? Do you want to win or to be happy?
If you are holding on to bitterness...what is your pay off for doing so? Many
times it takes one to let go of the hurt so that the fences of friendship may
be mended.
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC Licensed Mental Health Counselor & Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor License #MH9166 Phone: 386.747.7148 Fax: 407.264.8289 www.junderhilltherapy.com
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Today is a New Chance: Anxiety of Apprehension
Today is a New Chance: Anxiety of Apprehension
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHCLicensed Mental Health Counselor &Certified K-12 Guidance CounselorLicense #MH9166Phone: 386.747.7148Fax: 407.264.8289www.junderhilltherapy.com
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHCLicensed Mental Health Counselor &Certified K-12 Guidance CounselorLicense #MH9166Phone: 386.747.7148Fax: 407.264.8289www.junderhilltherapy.com
Anxiety of Apprehension
Worrying about someting coming up in the future? What if it
does or doesn't? I find so many asking themselves. Every day...sometimes during many waking hours people are asking themselves these questions. With that the anxiety begins to build...we become apprehsnive, irritable, frustrated and even angry.
The amount of worry one puts into a problem or a concern does not affect the outcome of course in a positive way. In fact in most cases people are so exhausted by the energy they have put out prior to the event that it effects the end result
negatively as we are running on a "low tank". Many times more issues
can even be created by the anxiety generated by all the worry.
Stress, even good stress is still stress! So in order to approach an upcoming
event in our lives we need to be able to acknowlege and address it is stressing us. Figuring out what works for our stressors is perhaps the most important thing we can do for ourselves. Discovering this allows us to deal with what is coming up in our lives in a more efficent and calm manner. We can make informed decisions, make better choices...if we are not stressing out along the way!
Does listening to music calm you or perhaps a brisk walk? Meditation or yoga are excellent avenues to reduce anxiety and quiet the mind of all the noise
we have created by worrying. Do you feel better after you have talked with a
good friend or enjoyed an evening out? Taking care of yourself will give you
a leg up on whatever you are facing in your life down the line.
Many of us use much negative "self talk" that can also
help increase one's anxiety. When we think of what we are facing
many times we stress ourselves out with words like: "should", "ought", "awful","terrible", "never" and "always". As we do this our anxiety level rises as we go forward not questioning or challenging this negativity we are generating for ourselves. For example if this happens will it really be terrible or just unfortunate? OR who says I should or alway need to do something? Many times just a quick quesion to ourselves can provide relief.
Apprehension about a future event will not CHANGE it! The sun will of course
keeping rising prior to THE DAY no matter how much we concern ourselves about it.
Discover your worry relief activity and utilize it...you deserve it!
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC Licensed Mental Health Counselor & Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor License #MH9166 Phone: 386.747.7148 Fax: 407.264.8289 www.junderhilltherapy.com
does or doesn't? I find so many asking themselves. Every day...sometimes during many waking hours people are asking themselves these questions. With that the anxiety begins to build...we become apprehsnive, irritable, frustrated and even angry.
The amount of worry one puts into a problem or a concern does not affect the outcome of course in a positive way. In fact in most cases people are so exhausted by the energy they have put out prior to the event that it effects the end result
negatively as we are running on a "low tank". Many times more issues
can even be created by the anxiety generated by all the worry.
Stress, even good stress is still stress! So in order to approach an upcoming
event in our lives we need to be able to acknowlege and address it is stressing us. Figuring out what works for our stressors is perhaps the most important thing we can do for ourselves. Discovering this allows us to deal with what is coming up in our lives in a more efficent and calm manner. We can make informed decisions, make better choices...if we are not stressing out along the way!
Does listening to music calm you or perhaps a brisk walk? Meditation or yoga are excellent avenues to reduce anxiety and quiet the mind of all the noise
we have created by worrying. Do you feel better after you have talked with a
good friend or enjoyed an evening out? Taking care of yourself will give you
a leg up on whatever you are facing in your life down the line.
Many of us use much negative "self talk" that can also
help increase one's anxiety. When we think of what we are facing
many times we stress ourselves out with words like: "should", "ought", "awful","terrible", "never" and "always". As we do this our anxiety level rises as we go forward not questioning or challenging this negativity we are generating for ourselves. For example if this happens will it really be terrible or just unfortunate? OR who says I should or alway need to do something? Many times just a quick quesion to ourselves can provide relief.
Apprehension about a future event will not CHANGE it! The sun will of course
keeping rising prior to THE DAY no matter how much we concern ourselves about it.
Discover your worry relief activity and utilize it...you deserve it!
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC Licensed Mental Health Counselor & Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor License #MH9166 Phone: 386.747.7148 Fax: 407.264.8289 www.junderhilltherapy.com
Monday, June 21, 2010
Detour of Change
A change we didn't want that knocks us down is tough...but isn't
accepting the new "view" as an opportunity tougher?
If you only choose to see a change as failure instead of a new
possibility...why try? If we are judged by failures
then fear will be a mantra for life leading
to at the very least a modification if not to
watching our dreams die all together.
With every change or detour we experience in our lives,
comes a lesson. Once the dirt has been dusted off,
our bruised ego healed....aren't we better
for the experience that change brought to us?
"COURAGE doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the
quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try
again tomorrow." (Unknown).
Isn't this where our strength
and faith are truly tested? Every change, ever new
path is truly meant for us to discover more of
our true selves.
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC
Licensed Mental Health Counselor &
Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor
License #MH9166
Phone: 386.747.7148
Fax: 407.264.8289
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC Licensed Mental Health Counselor & Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor License #MH9166 Phone: 386.747.7148 Fax: 407.264.8289 www.junderhilltherapy.com
accepting the new "view" as an opportunity tougher?
If you only choose to see a change as failure instead of a new
possibility...why try? If we are judged by failures
then fear will be a mantra for life leading
to at the very least a modification if not to
watching our dreams die all together.
With every change or detour we experience in our lives,
comes a lesson. Once the dirt has been dusted off,
our bruised ego healed....aren't we better
for the experience that change brought to us?
"COURAGE doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the
quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try
again tomorrow." (Unknown).
Isn't this where our strength
and faith are truly tested? Every change, ever new
path is truly meant for us to discover more of
our true selves.
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC
Licensed Mental Health Counselor &
Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor
License #MH9166
Phone: 386.747.7148
Fax: 407.264.8289
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC Licensed Mental Health Counselor & Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor License #MH9166 Phone: 386.747.7148 Fax: 407.264.8289 www.junderhilltherapy.com
Thursday, May 13, 2010
"ADHD World"
Once again last night on the news a teen takes a gun to school.
Nothing new, right? His Mother in a tearful interview stated her son "has ADHD". My blood starts to boil! How many times have parents, not to mention their children used this as a reason for everything from a speeding ticket to taking weapons to a school? Yes, ADHD is a real concern that so many live & cope with in their everyday lives....but, "come on man"!
We are teaching many children & teens that their "disability" will be their ticket to do just about anything they feel for the rest of their lives. In the classroom they receive accomodations, if financially eligible their families receive money and if they misbehave in the community, many times the courts order free counseling services for them, while putting off any real consequences for their behavior.
Kids & parents...hear this! Once these young people are adults...
having ADHD isn't going to matter, it's not going to fly! If your child robs a bank, if they run a red light, if they shoplift or take a gun into a store and wave it around, as they once did at school....the law, society, or the prison system isn't going to care that in elementary school your little darling was found to have
ADHD!
Seek out help for you child now....through the schools, mental health centers, therapists and churches. There is help out there...many counselors have sliding scales or will help you access free services! Teach your child at home how to cope with his/her ADHD. You are cheating your child or teen if you do anything less! They are going to have to live in the real world...don't let them grow up in artificial "ADHD WORLD".
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC Licensed Mental Health Counselor & Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor License #MH9166 Phone: 386.747.7148 Fax: 407.264.8289 www.junderhilltherapy.com
Nothing new, right? His Mother in a tearful interview stated her son "has ADHD". My blood starts to boil! How many times have parents, not to mention their children used this as a reason for everything from a speeding ticket to taking weapons to a school? Yes, ADHD is a real concern that so many live & cope with in their everyday lives....but, "come on man"!
We are teaching many children & teens that their "disability" will be their ticket to do just about anything they feel for the rest of their lives. In the classroom they receive accomodations, if financially eligible their families receive money and if they misbehave in the community, many times the courts order free counseling services for them, while putting off any real consequences for their behavior.
Kids & parents...hear this! Once these young people are adults...
having ADHD isn't going to matter, it's not going to fly! If your child robs a bank, if they run a red light, if they shoplift or take a gun into a store and wave it around, as they once did at school....the law, society, or the prison system isn't going to care that in elementary school your little darling was found to have
ADHD!
Seek out help for you child now....through the schools, mental health centers, therapists and churches. There is help out there...many counselors have sliding scales or will help you access free services! Teach your child at home how to cope with his/her ADHD. You are cheating your child or teen if you do anything less! They are going to have to live in the real world...don't let them grow up in artificial "ADHD WORLD".
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC Licensed Mental Health Counselor & Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor License #MH9166 Phone: 386.747.7148 Fax: 407.264.8289 www.junderhilltherapy.com
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
Today is a New Chance: Can I Love Too Much?
Today is a New Chance: Can I Love Too Much?
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHCLicensed Mental Health Counselor &Certified K-12 Guidance CounselorLicense #MH9166Phone: 386.747.7148Fax: 407.264.8289www.junderhilltherapy.com
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHCLicensed Mental Health Counselor &Certified K-12 Guidance CounselorLicense #MH9166Phone: 386.747.7148Fax: 407.264.8289www.junderhilltherapy.com
Monday, May 3, 2010
Can I Love Too Much?
"Women Who Love Too Much" is one of my favorite books. I use it with clients constantly and I have led book studies on it as well. The other day I had someone ask me... can I really love too much?
If it interferes with your life and another's life, I say a resounding..."Yes!". That is how you will know...if what you are doing is keeping you from reaching your full potential or preventing someone close to you from growing or growing up...then you are loving TOO much!
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC
Licensed Mental Health Counselor
License #MH9166
Phone: 386.747.714
www.junderhilltherapy.com
If it interferes with your life and another's life, I say a resounding..."Yes!". That is how you will know...if what you are doing is keeping you from reaching your full potential or preventing someone close to you from growing or growing up...then you are loving TOO much!
Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC
Licensed Mental Health Counselor
License #MH9166
Phone: 386.747.714
www.junderhilltherapy.com
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