Are You Worth Your Time?

Today more than ever I keep hearing, "I really need to do "whatever", but
I can't find the time. "If you want time, you must make it."(Charles Bruxton). I would argue that Mr. Bruxton was right! The only way you will ever find time for anything is to schedule it in the blackberry, on your calendar... or place it on the top of your daily "to do" list.

Ah...but women in particular while fabulous at multitasking & juggling between
their business and caretaking duties...are absolutely terrible at making time
to take care of themselves, i.e. their needs,their bodies, their feelings, or even years after women's lib.. asking for what they want or need! For many this time was the beginning of losing themselves. Years later as they feel abandoned by spouse/partners many come asking for tools to cope with a life they have to build for themselves! So used to taking care of others, they are clueless or feel guilty about putting that same time and effort into taking care of their own needs and scheduling time for the simplest things...a physical, working out or even taking time to remember what they enjoy or may still be passionate about before they started "real life" many years ago.

As they are getting in touch with who they are now and finding a purpose...even one minute at a time, if that's what it takes...these wonderful, interesting women appear to reawaken and actually say they are more themselves than ever! They begin to worry they are becoming selfish as they find themselves guarding time they now treasure to spend on what they want, need & feel is important. Some question their commitments, some wonder if they have ever had a healthy relationship of any kind. The roles they have played practically their whole adult lives may not longer fit into the "healthy" relationships that they long for...with family, friends and loved ones. Changing creates ripples in all of these emotional tides..but can the ripples lead to a more fulffilling trip? You really can can learn to ride the waves.
So ask yourself today...are you worth your time?



Jodi H. Underhill MEd. LMHC Licensed Mental Health Counselor & Certified K-12 Guidance Counselor License #MH9166 Phone: 386.747.7148 Fax: 407.264.8289 www.junderhilltherapy.com